A South African Clinical Psychologist named Sathasivian Cooper who devoted himself to studying human relationships for at least 3 years shocked his audience at his live TED talk with concrete explanations as to why people who do online dating are retarded.
Cooper who has friends in Johannesburg and the rest of the world explained in Pretoria the psychological understanding of people who fall in love with pictures, voices and consider themselves to be in a relationship.
There is a big difference between long distance relationship and dating online. Long distance relationship involves people who know each other in person and can only keep in touch via phone, social media and other connection mediums.
On the other hand online dating is falling in love with people you meet online and keep in touch with hoping one day you are going to meet. In his findings, 95% of online relationships do not work out whereas most of long distance relationships work out as they involve people who know each other in person.
The Psychologist said dating online is a sign of being less developed both socially and mentally. People who are defeated by their environments opt to loving people they don`t really know.
Talking of a couple friends of his, he narrated how anti-social almost all of them are. He said, `Dating online is pretty much dating your phone because you talk to people you meet with the help of devices but meeting people in real life and fall for them later gives you a broad understanding of who you deal with`
Cooper continued saying that people who date online keep to themselves and in most cases have very few real life friends because they live in fantasy.
`My friends doing online dating barely talk to me when we are hanging out because they are always busy communicating with people they can only connect with via internet and maybe phones`, He elaborated.
He concluded that the white community is more affected than the black community. He gave an example of a Nigerian woman who conned an American Billionaire in their online relationship.
His question to his friends and listeners is, why are you so blind to be in a blind relationship when you can deal with what fits your understanding?
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